If you want to know what to look for in a Husband, look at these men in the Bible.
This is not to suggest that these men were perfect, but there are qualities in these biblical characters.
If we can learn to recognize them through Scripture, we can also recognize them in the men around us.
Who you marry affects your entire future.
It will affect your faith, and it’ll affect what you do on a daily basis.
It’ll affect who you become.
It is important to recognize the traits in the Christian men that may approach you.
For women who are wives who want to better understand and appreciate your husbands.
This list is also for you.
Boaz: The Protector and Provider
When it comes to husbands, Boaz is probably the number one character in the Bible that women think of.
A lot of women talk about waiting for their Boaz.
Ruth was out in the field working when Boaz saw her.
She was not out there looking for a man.
She was out there working for food, and Boaz recognized something in her. He learned about the character of Ruth and responded in kind.
Receiving a Boaz doesn’t happen unless your Godly character is fully on display.
Boaz was a “prominent man of noble character” (Ruth 2:1). He was a godly man, and a wife of any less character would be unacceptable to him.
Joseph (Mary’s Husband): Quiet Obedience
We know little about Joseph’s life, but what we do know about him is so impactful.
He was a stand-up guy. When he thought Mary betrayed him, he didn’t want to put her to shame (Matthew 1:19).
He obeyed God after an angel visited him in a dream and told him the truth about Mary.
He had to take a pretty big L in public. It’s unlikely that people believed that Mary got pregnant by the Holy Spirit.
They’re like, yeah, OK. But he took God at His word and bore what could have been the social shame of that.
An angel visited Joseph again in his dreams, and he followed God’s direction to go to Egypt.
He was just a steady rock for his family. Despite the public cost, he still honored the will of God.
Sometimes, God might call you to something, and it might look a certain way in public. Even when people don’t understand, God calls us to obey with the utmost humility.
Abraham: A Man Called on a Journey
Abraham has encouraged me a lot.
In Genesis 12: 1-4, God calls Abraham. God told him to leave his family and leave his country to go to a place he didn’t know.
At 75 years old, Abraham tells his wife and family they’re leaving—even though he doesn’t know where they’re going.
In that time, it was uncommon to separate from your family. Yet he took that risk and remained obedient to God.
He stepped into something no one around him had ever done, and I imagine people had plenty of questions.
At that point, he didn’t even have the promise of a son; that promise came later. God told him to go on this journey. Sometimes, we don’t even know what’s on the other side of obedience, and we get more instructions along the way.
It takes a deep level of faith to step out and do something different from the people around you.
Abraham was the first man of his kind in regard to his family. Yet he took that on with a strong measure of faith, knowing that God had his back.
He didn’t have the foresight to know what he was stepping into. But he had enough knowledge and relationship with God to trust that God wasn’t sending him in a bad direction.
That faith and that trust that he displayed was the catalyst for the legacy that he still has today
Sarah called Abraham lord, followed and obeyed.
Sarah became a beneficiary of the promise that God made Abraham, even though they made their mistakes.
Sometimes our husbands might receive a call from God and there might be fear or confusion around it.
But at the end of the day, we have to trust that God is leading our husbands. As we step out in support of their calling, we become beneficiaries of every good thing that happens afterward.
Job: Longsuffering
If you read the book of Job, Satan appears before God, and God points Job out. Satan bet that Job was only righteous because God allowed him to be rich and have a big family. God essentially took that bet and said Do what you will, just don’t harm him.
Job still praised God. Then, God allowed Job to be afflicted, and again, Job still praised God.
Job didn’t “deserve it,” but God saw fit in his wisdom to use Job as an example.
I can only imagine what it must’ve felt like for Job’s wife to lose all of her children.
The level of grief that she must’ve experienced makes me completely understand why she said what she said to Job.
We might understand where Job’s wife was coming from, but what type of wife do you want to be in that scenario?
Could you be the wife that stands beside her husband and says I’m gonna suffer this with you and still trust God with you?
Job displayed an unmatched level of righteousness shown by men in God’s Word. As wives, essentially, we want to be able to match that same energy regardless of the situation that we face.
What This Means for You as a Wife
If you are single, these four men and many others in the Bible are a great representation of characteristics to look for in the men in your own life.
The examples laid out in the Word of God show that even though none of these men were perfect, neither were their wives.
The men in the Bible should prompt you to try to understand the type of man that you are married to.
What is expected of you as your husband‘s wife may differ from what’s expected of someone else based on the direction that you’re going in.
How are you assessing how to be the biggest asset to your husband?
Are you just out here winging it, going day by day surviving as a “hot mess express?” Or are you building your home, faith, and marriage in a way that honors the type of man that God has given you?
As we look at these men in the Bible, we can obviously see that biblical manhood is not about perfection. None of these men were perfect.
We can see very clearly what their flaws are, and we know as wives we see more clearly than anyone else what our husband‘s flaws are. But we are there to help them, support them, lift them up, and be an asset, not a liability.
Ask God how to best support the man that you have, and take that into account when you’re dealing with your husband, knowing that he’s not like the next girl‘s husband and that is OK.
What personal study do you need to do to understand your husband better so that both of you can have the best experience?
What character in the Bible do you see your husband as being similar to, and what steps have you taken as his wife in order to best support him in his calling?
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